Dreams Drive Destiny

Dreams here mean thoughts which we visualize with open eyes and alert mind. Dreaming with open eyes is more structured process than simply wishing or desiring. In dreaming, lot of thought process is involved. Person visualizes what ultimately he wants to become . Why he wants that ? What are the options he has ? What would be the path and process to reach there ?

Once the dream or vision is decided, opportunities start emerging. Of course dreaming alone is not enough. One needs to act. But it is the dream that stimulates action. Dedication and determination is required for implementing your dreams. Quality and vastness of dreams depend upon your ability to think beyond your present reality. As a general rule, if your dreams are not achieving 20 times success in 10 years compared to your present situation then your dreams are just average.

5 Steps for effective dreaming :

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
नींद उड़ाये रात – दिन , रहे लक्ष्य पर नैन।
सपना ऐसा हो बुना , जो हर ले सुख चैन।।

Do It Now

Procrastination is a disease. It does more damage than good. Most of the people can’t think quickly. They can’t take quick decision. If decision is taken, they can’t take quick action. There can’t be any reward if you can’t take timely action.

Sometime delay tactics work but most of the time it is considered to be hindrance. It is quite possible that all the information or resources are not available to take quick action but take your first step. Highly successful people, take very quick decision and very fast action. For them, time is the most important resource. Time saved is money saved.

Whether it is completion of any course, building of a house or execution of any project, it should be done as quickly as possible. For that, mantra is “do it now”.

5 Tips to take quick action :

1.Listen to your conscious. It always advices you to take action.
2.Do not go for excessive advice before taking action.
3.Take a small step but take it quickly.
4.Start your day with a To-Do-List.
5.Spend every day, one hour for your health and one hour for enriching the mind. That will keep you action oriented through out the day.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
कल पर कुछ मत टालिये, जो करिये बस आज।
कल-कल करने से सदा, बिगड़े अच्छे काज।।

Discipline In Private

One must be disciplined in private and praised in public but people forget this rule and do the reverse. You might have observed several times, mothers start teaching do’s and don’ts to their children when they are surrounded by guests and unknown people. Most of the time child will not obey in such situations because probably he feels this is an attack on his ego and intelligence.

Similar type of scene is prevalent in corporate world also where boss takes pleasure in showing his/her authority on subordinates, in front of other colleagues. He/she will start firing and criticizing his/her subordinate in front of others and poor employee may not have any option but to feel belittle. In such type of situations, how can one expect great performance?Work might be done but employees would never be able to give their 100%.

5 Tips to discipline your juniors :

1.Do not criticize in front of others.
2. Criticize the behavior/performance not the person.
3.Criticism should be coupled with suggestions for improvement.
4.Try to find out the root cause of a problem if it’s repetitive.
5.Appreciate upon improvements.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
घृणा बुराई से करें, बुरी न कोई जान।
नहीं भीड़ के सामने, कभी खींचना कान।।

Success Demands Dedication

General elections of Indian parliament in 2014 will be remembered in the history for getting success due to sheer dedication of Mr. Narendra Modi. Once the vision is clear and strategy is decided, dedication and determination can only bring success.

The problem with most of us is that we have lot of desires; number of dreams but what we lack is hard work and consistency of efforts. We come across momentary setback or hurdle and our level of enthusiasm falls drastically. We start doubting our strategy and even the goal.

People who are looking for quick success, also quit quickly. If your goal is clear, path is right, keep walking. Do not quit. Success is bound to be there. Success demands perseverance and dedication. Winners do not quit.

5 Tips to have continued Dedication :

1. Have faith in your Goal.
2. Plan meticulously before starting any project.
3. Do not quit unless there is no other option.
4. Create a strong and competent team.
5. Have patience and faith.

दोहा अविनाश बागड़े
पूर्ण समर्पित भाव से, रहें लक्ष्य के साथ।
तभी सफलता आपका, चूमेगी ले हाथ।।

Advertise To Popularise

Indian parliament’s elections of the year 2014 will be remembered in history for its effective use of advertisement. Let me share a real-life example from my life. My 6 years niece with a flag in hand chanting ABKI BAAR, followed by 5 years nephew shouting MODI SARKAR, is an instance of widespread impact of advertisement about elections.

In my entire life, I have never seen such an effective and intensive campaign to make someone popular not only in India but also abroad. If you do not know how to market, you cannot promote yourself, your products and your services. How good you are, how best is your product and how efficient your services are, has got no meaning if it does not reach people. Doing good is not enough, informing people that you are doing good is equally important.

Even,if you are performing social activity and you want it to reach people, you need to advertise. Fortunately, in present era of social media and networking, one can advertise his products and services very fast and very quickly.

5 tips to Advertise.

1. It will be waste of money to advertise bad product. Improve your product first.
2. Be truthful about whatever you are promoting.
3. Advertise among relevant groups only.
4. Use cost effective methods.
5. Apply innovativeness and creativeness.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
दुनियाँ के बाजार में ,बना लीजिये नाम।
खूब ढिंढोरा पीटिये , अगर कियें हैं काम।।

Don’t Magnify Problems

50% people are not interested in your problems and the rest are happy that you have them. Some people share their problems in great details and style, thereby creating a mountain out of mole.

5 Tips to handle problems :

1.Problems are inevitable, share it with a right person.
2.Be positive and think about right solution rather than feeling helpless.
3.Do not advertise your problems.
4.For few problems, time is the great healer. Keep patience.
5.Try to be more knowledgeable about problem and its probable solutions.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
अपने दुख तकलीफ़ ना, जग भर करे बखान।
दुख अपना बतलाइये, लोगों को पहचान।।

Discipline Or Regret

DiP: Discipline in Private, tip was to emphasize, maintaining discipline in juniors, in family and at work place. This tip is focusing about discipline in your personal life.Most of us have got a habit to seek discipline from others but do not adopt the same principles and rules in our own life.

Discipline must start with small things in life such as daily morning walk or exercise, going to school or office on time, sleeping on time, reaching in time for appointments, keeping things in place, wearing uniform in office (if it is there) etc. Discipline is a wider term but it’s mainly related to time management. One must learn discipline from nature like earth revolves at a fixed speed on its axis and around sun that results in timely sunset or sunrise, proper seasons etc. If you are not disciplined, you will have more regrets in life. Though in India ,we follow Indian Standard Time (i.e. being late for everything) and punctual people regret reaching everywhere on time, but their habit of punctuality, keeps other aspect of life well in control.

5 Tips to live disciplined Life :

1.Manage your time with discipline.
2.Check that there is a place for everything and everything is in place.
3.Do not feel irritated, if you are disciplined and others are not.
4.At home your relationship is more important than discipline.
5. Consistency is needed in discipline.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
अनुशासन ख़ुद पर रखे, जपे समय के माप।
वरना जीवन में तुम्हें, होगा पश्चाताप।।

Do Things Differently

I recall Shiv Khera’s line. You may not do different things but do things differently. Extra ordinary people do not do extra ordinary things; they just do ordinary things in an extra ordinary way. History shows that great people have done simple things in different way. Several countries achieved independence from Britain and European countries but Gandhiji achieved it through Ahinsa , which was very different and unique way at that time.

For doing things differently one needs to use his creative and innovative side of brain. One needs to question every aspect of activity. What are you doing? Why are you doing? How are youdoing? When are you doing? Where are you doing? If you are doing some thing in a similar way since years, chances are that you have a better way of doing it.

5 Tips to do things differently :

1.Before taking any action, think twice. You may have another effective way of doing it.
2.Search and research different ways of doing same thing.
3.Question year old practices.
4.Use brain storming sessions and group discussions for innovativeness.
5.Be enterprising in trying different ways.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
जग जिन राहों पर चले, है वो राहें आम।
अलग तरीके से करे, ख़ास बनेगा काम।।

Do Your Duty

The most difficult question in my life was and still is, who am I and what is my dharma (duty)? By dharma I do not mean here religion but duty. In life we have many roles and many relationships. So far my conclusion is honestly discharging the duty of each and every role and each and every relationship shall be our duty.

In life we play many roles; a child, a parent, a sibling, a spouse, a member of a community, society, religious group, a boss, a colleague, a subordinate, a citizen of nation and a member of the planet. Every role demands certain responsibilities and duties. Our dharma is to discharge those duties as diligently as possible. Some times it so happens that in a relationship, other person is not fulfilling his/her duty and due to that we may decide not to fulfill our duty as well. This may satisfy our ego for time being but won’t enrich our mind.

5 Tips to do your duty :

1. Make a list of your roles and related duties.
2. Do not worry about reward while doing your duty.
3. Do not expect from other person that he/she will do his/her duty.
4.Wisdom is needed to perform conflicting duties.
5.If it is impossible to fulfill your duty, be transparent with the other person.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
एक ही जीवन में मिले, अलग अलग किरदार।
कर अपने कर्तव्य तू, जीवन का ये सार।।

Focus to Grow

A farmer was sad and clueless due to lack of water for farming. An expert came and advised him to dig 100 ft. to solve his water problem. After a year the expert came back and saw farmer still sitting sad. He asked the reason for his grief. He said I dug 110 ft. but no water. He asked,”show me where did you dig”. The farmer showed him 11 holes of 10 ft. each!! If you wish to grow, put all your energy, time and resources at one project or task, in focused manner. Result is bound to be there. If you are not focused, all your efforts will go in vain like that of the farmer.

Whether you are a student and pursuing some course or in relationship or working on a project or in a department, put all your efforts and focus in one direction. Focus and pursue your single biggest opportunity. It does not mean that one should not diversify. But strategy of diversification shall be adopted once your existing business is already established and professionally running without much of your efforts and you have extra funds to risk without affecting your existing business.

5 Tips to Focus :

1.Focus on one major goal one at a time.
2.Perseverance is the key to success.
3.Do not allow interruptions while you are focusing on one task.
4.If you can afford, keep mobile on silent and attend calls in intervals.
5. Plan your day by making a To-Do-List.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
जो करना वो सोच ले, धरिये उस पर ध्यान।
सदा मिले उन्नत दिशा, कहते लोग सुजान।।

Grow or Go

Physical growth is inevitable but all other growth requires conscious efforts. I would like to divide growth in 2 parts. One is visible and outward growth and another is non-visible and inward growth. Most of us are after visible growth such as growth in terms of money, power, fame and status. Money leads all of them.

When 2 unknown people meet, they may not ask each other’s name but they would like to know about each other’s profession. Money has become the parameter of growth. There is nothing wrong in that as long as you control money rather than letting money control you. One must continuously make legitimate and genuine efforts to grow money, which works as fuel for all other activities and passions.

Another growth is not so visible such as strong relationships; enhancement of knowledge, depth of spirituality and wisdom etc. One must make continuous efforts to grow these. This kind of growth lasts longer, even beyond your death. If you have stopped making efforts for growing, you merely exist not really living.

5 Tips for focus on growth :

1.Growth is nature’s principle. It is not a choice but a compulsion.
2.Select the area of growth with conscious choice because it will have long-term impact in your life.
3.Set the vision; choose the strategy and act upon that.
4.Keep patience, some times it may take longer to get reward of your efforts.
5.Failures are lessons on the path of growth.

Honestly Be Polite

I am always cautious of people who are extremely sweet. People wear so many masks; it becomes difficult to judge their intentions particularly when you are not fully acquainted with them. Politeness is important for creating, developing and maintaining relationships. However if you are slightly dishonest in your politeness, people will find it out and will not trust you. Dishonesty in politeness means you have some other motto in your mind which is in contrast with your words. It means your speech and actions are not synchronised.

There are people who are honest in heart but do not know how to be polite. Such people face difficulty in connecting with others. For politeness best instrument is smile. Though it is such a simple expression but some people fail to bring it on face. Polite people normally rehearse the words and reframe before they shoot them out. Initially cautious efforts are required however continuous practice makes one perfect.

5 Tips for becoming Polite :

1.Think before expressing.
2.Wear a true smile.
3.Every day meditation can help in controlling emotions.
4.Select your words cautiously.
5.Drop your ego.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
मन के अंदर जो रहें, मुखर वही हो भाव।
जन-जन से है जोड़ता, नमताभरा स्वभाव।।

Live To Give

I got raised with 3 other siblings, in a respectable Jain family but with very limited resources. But inspite of scarcity of resources, what I observed in my childhood that my mother used to make extra breads for the street animals. Since then I learnt a lesson to always help needy in all circumstances.

Most of us have these thoughts and emotions that we should give back to the society but we do not know what to do, where to do and how to do so that our efforts and resources are utilized in an efficient manner. Select one area from an ecosystem and try to create a long lasting positive difference in that. Help and service should be extended with an intension to feel the joy within.

Ego should be replaced with joy and kindness to be replaced with compassion. It is important to develop the habit of giving, whatever possible and whenever possible.

5 Tips in Effective Giving :

1.Whatever your income is, keep a small portion to help the needy.
2.Give out of love not kindness only.
3.Take care of the feelings of the receiver.
4.Do not advertise about your giving.
5.Take special care of your close people and staff.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
सही हाथ को दीजिये, सदा यथोचित दान।
देने की आदत रखे, है ये कार्य महान।।

Never Be Sarcastic

Sarcasm is a sharp, bitter, or cutting expression or remark. Many people have a habit of being sarcastic in dealing with people. As long as it is used as humor, it may be appreciated but when it is used towards family, friend and acquaintance then it is not a good habit.
Cartoonist, poets and media use sarcasm mainly towards politicians or celebrities very widely but mostly it is to pass on the message in a humorous way. People enjoy it and though it may be embarrassing for a person towards whom it is intended but the best way to deal with it is to ignore it. However, in one to one conversations, group discussions and meetings, it should be totally avoided.

It creates humiliation and bitterness. Person to whom it is targeted, may ignore it at that particular time but it is never forgotten and carries a negative impression for a long time. If seniors are sarcastic, it will put off the juniors and their moral & motivation will go down.

5 Tips to avoid and deal sarcastic attitude :

1.Be straightforward.
2.If sarcasm is used as a humor, make sure it is not targeted to demean the other party.
3.Best way to deal with sarcastic remark is to ignore it.
4.If a person is continuously sarcastic, firmly resist it.
5.Avoid the company of habitual sarcastic people.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
हर लें ना तेरे कहीं, रिश्तों के ही प्राण।
कभी न बोलों में रखें, छिपा व्यंग के बाण।।

Nature is God

PRAKRUTI, the ‘Nature’; is the mother of all living beings. Who has created this universe, has been a mystery since ages and probably it is not going to be answered in future as well but it is sure that our existence is because of nature only. Whatever we are doing, any science, art, maths or exploration, it is just an extension of nature. It is knowing and exploring more, what already exists in nature.

As per the records of civilisation, of approximately 5000 years, the kind of damage we have done to the nature in last 100 years is much greater than previous 4900 years. Irony is that, the damage is increasing with greater speed day by day. The rapid climate change is evidence of the same. Instead of worshiping in temple, mosque and churches, if we start worshiping nature by protecting it, then it would be a greater gift to our coming generations.

5 Tips to worship Nature :

1.Plant and protect more trees.
2.Reduce material life so that load on water and energy reduces.
3.Minimize waste and adopt scientific way of disposing waste.
4.Develop renewable energy resources.
5.Install more advanced pollution control equipment in industries, commercial and residential establishments.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
ढूंढ रहे भगवान सब, कहे नर्क या स्वर्ग।
जिससे हम जन्मे सभी, ईश्वर यही निसर्ग।।

Nothing is Permanent

Probably, except a soul, nothing is permanent. Every thing, changes its shape, size, color & contents every seconds. Every thing goes through a cycle of birth, life and death. Still, human nature is more resistent to changes. We seek permanent things in our temporary life. Do not laugh on people who are going through tough phase of life. You never know when the situation would be reversed.

We like it or not, life is going to go through the cycle of pain and pleasure, day and night, bad and good, life and death, old and new. Once, the great king Akbar asked Birbal and his all ministers, tell me in one sentence which is true at all times. Birbal replied, “This too shall pass”. When you are going through a feeling of pleasure or pain if you remember this sentence, you will be able to develop in mind the feeling of equanimity.

5 Tips to develop attitude of Equanimity :
1.Pain and pleasure are part of cycle.
2.There is difference in speed but cycle is moving.
3.Every moment, every thing is changing.
4.We have the power to make favourable changes in our life.
5.Certain universal forces are beyond our control and have positive or negative effects on our life.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
स्थायी कोई भाव ना, होता सबका अंत।
जीवन का यह चक्र ही, पतझर और बसंत।।

Never Keep Regrets

My father did not leave enough wealth for me. I could not complete my professional course. I did not get desired job. My business did not flourish the way I wished. My child did not get in merit list in SSC exam. I could not marry the girl I loved. Like that there are thousands of regrets in life. In such circumstances we have 2 choices: Either to live with regrets or leave the regret and carry on. Either crib for what you could not get or love what you got. Either plan for bright future or cry for a painful past. Choice is ours. But this choice decides whether we make our life beautiful or painful.

No man is born, who did not have some or the other regret in life. Difference between winner and loser is that winner does not allow the seed of regret to grow whereas a loser keeps nurturing the plant of regret. When we nurture a regret it spreads like a weed. One regret will generate hundreds of other regrets and your life will be full of regrets.

5 Tips to bury the regrets :
1.Regret due to past events are beyond your control.You cannot reverse the time so the best way is to accept it as destiny.
2.Learn lessons from what has happened in the past so that it can be avoided in the future.
3.Do not blame any one for what has already happened.
4.Plan your future.
5.Show must go on.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
असफलता से सीख लो, खुद को दो ना दोष।
बीती बातों का कभी, करना मत अफसोस।।

Optimize Process Time

Time and cost are 2 major inputs required for manufacturing any product and for delivering services. Most of the entrepreneurs are cautious of direct cost, however time consumed in this process gets neglected. Optimising process time can optimize quality, cost and service. World-class organisation sets the time targets for each and every activity.

Optimisation of time increases efficiency which results into better output in available resources thus reduction in per unit price. Competitiveness in market increases by reducing per unit cost. Reduction in time increases customer satisfaction also. He gets faster service and waiting time reduces. If the price and quality is equal, a customer would like to buy a product or take services from the company, which delivers quickly.

5 Tips to optimize process time :
1.Eliminate wastage.
2.Do not compromise on quality.
3.Optimise through time and motion study.
4.Set the time target for each activity and each employee.
5.Keep reviewing processes continuously.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
समय प्रक्रिया में लगा, रहे सदा अनुरूप।
गुणवत्ता उत्पाद की, चमके जैसे धूप।।

Prayers Are Powerful

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. A man when passing through problems, does not want to share them with anyone. He feels inferior in asking. Probably this is men’s ego. However most of us do not have problem in praying to God. And most of the times our prayers are answered positively and our faith further gets cemented.

Prayers are powerful not because someone is sitting somewhere and listening to our problems and helping us in solving them. Basically when we pray, we give positive commands to our mind. Mind has so much power, that the entire universe starts working for realisation of that command. When mind is alert, it finds creative and innovative solutions, including trace opportunities and thats when we get success.

5 Tips for effective Prayer :
1.Decide what you want to achieve.
2.Pray for the same, first thing in the morning and pray before you sleep.
3.Pray to, in whom you have complete trust.
4.Prayers are answered in the form of opportunities. Keep your eyes and ears open.
5.Actions will bring reward. Only prayers are not enough.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
हाथ जोड़ भगवान का, लेते मन से नाम।
सकारात्मकता सदा, अर्चन का परिणाम।।

Place For Everything

“Place for everything and everything in place” is one of the most effective principles of management. However, this is applicable and useful everywhere. Most of the domestic fights are for silly reasons like things that cannot be found when needed. You may have to waste a lot of time in searching your favourite apparel, shoe, screwdriver, pen, toothpaste and comb.

The simple reason is that, place is not fixed for each and every item and even if the place is fixed, some of the members are not having the habit of keeping back things at the same place after using it. Similarly in work places, this rule is of utmost importance. Particularly in industries, process line & operation theaters, if things are not in place, it can create havoc.

Create a place for everything in such a way that it is convenient to find & easy to remember. Logical marking or numbering or naming should be done, so that even if new employee joins, it becomes easy for him to operate.

5 Tips for proper management of things :
1.Fix most logical place for every thing.
2.Inform and train all concerned, people about location.
3.All those who are concerned need to develop religious habit to keep things in right place.
4.Lids, caps, cover, door etc. should be properly closed after use.
5. Few people are hard to train and need continuous reminder.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
जगह मिले हर चीज को ,रहे जगह हर चीज।
यही प्रबंधन तंत्र का , मूल – रूप से बीज।।

Prepare For Worst

It is not necessary that we get whatever we plan. Our plan for studies, job, project, business, vacations etc. can fail and wise people are those who keep their plan B ready so that they can be on track again in a short span. Do your best but at the same time be prepared for the worst. This strategy gives peace of mind and sudden shocks are easily absorbed.

The best time to prepare for the worst is when every thing is going very well. That time one has spare time and additional resources to plan for future eventualities. Always keep in mind that whether best time or worst time, it will not last forever. Going for a sufficient insurance and saving regularly from income are wise habits. Preparing for worst time, is like keeping spare tyer in the car. You never know when tyer will go flat.

5 Tips to prepare for Bad Time :
1.Always be prepared and keep plan B ready.
2.Never take your eyes off from the future eventualities.
3.Do not hesitate in investing part of your resources for plan B, though it may all go waste.
4.Never keep all your eggs in one basket.
5.Save and insure for future.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
रहो समर्पित काम में, मगर रहो तैयार।
कहीं जीत की राह में, मिल जाये ना हार।।

Passion Gives Excellence

The level of passion and the level of excellence are directly related. Your level of excellence will go as high as your level of passion towards your purpose. Passion is defined as intense feeling and emotions about some thing. The best example is Sachin Tendulkar’s passion for cricket. A child gets the highest grade in a subject for which he is passionate about. He needs least efforts for that subject. When you are passionate about some thing, your body, mind, heart and soul work in unison for that purpose.

And when your entire being is working unilaterally for some thing, excellence has to be there. Passion cannot be forced upon anyone. It may so happen that a person is unaware of the subjects for which he is passionate about and has wrongly taken up studies, job or relationship, which he/she is not finding interesting. In such a situation it is better to change your path rather than struggle hard to develop passion for the current subject.

5 Tips to pursue Passion :
1.Try to identify your passion.
2.If unable to find your passion, take professional help.
3.Keep expanding your vision around your passion.
4.Keep working in focused way for your passion.
5.Make passion your main goal. Money, fame and power will follow.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
रहे लगन की भावना, किसी काम की ओर।
करते है परिणाम भी, हरदम भाव विभोर।।

Problems Generate Opportunities

The difference between wise and ordinary is that when a problem arises, ordinary person tries to solve the problem and wise person searches for opportunities in the problem. If you are a human being, problems are inevitable both in personal and professional life. If you get detected for diabetes, consider that it’s an opportunity to live more disciplined and healthy life by regular walk, yoga and exercise.

If you lose the job, probably it is an opportunity to start your own enterprise. Opportunities are hidden in every situation. One needs to be more alert, more cautious, maintain positive frame of mind and be more innovative. Develop your attitude like a sponge ball. As hard you get hit to the wall, you bounce back with double the force. Problems are like stones, as close you keep from your eyes, they block the vision. As far you keep them, they will appear smaller and smaller.

5 Tips to generate opportunities out of problems :
1.When problem arises, do not allow your mind to go in a negative mode.
2.First find an immediate solution to tackle the problem.
3.Use your creative mind to find opportunities in the situation.
4.Do not keep staring at the closed door.
5.Take the help of experts if needed.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
खड़ी समस्या सामने, सकारात्मक भाव।
मिले नई सम्भावना।, बढ़ा लीजिये पांव।।

Patience Is Virtue

Patience is a virtue, not many have. Where most of us are running after materialistic life, it is not easy to develop quality of patience. Except bad money, cheap publicity and ugly power nothing worthwhile is achieved without patience. All great leaders and achievers such as Gandhi, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Mother Teresa, Jamshedji Tata, Sachin Tendulkar, Warren Buffet have or had virtue of patience.

Real test of patience is when one is going through adversity and pain. Almost all religions have advocated the importance of patience and teach us to keep faith in almighty while going through suffering. Patience and faith gives greater mental strength to deal with pain. One needs to develop patience as a habit, right from in dealing with small situation such as waiting in a queue to fighting with cancer. This is one of the most important virtues needed for getting almost any thing in life.

5 Tips to develop Patience :
1.Meditation can help in developing patience.
2.Religious and philosophical teaching can help in attaining peace of mind.
3.Mother raising child is the best example of patience to watch. 4.Watch your thoughts, if you are developing irritation,frustration immediately withdraw from situation.
5.Divert your mind on some positive subject.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
इस भौतिक संसार में, बिरला है ये तत्व।
कर्मठ हो धीरज धरें, इसका बड़ा महत्व।।

Perform Or Perish

Whatever profession we are in, unless and until we perform, our customers and clients are not going to trust us. If you are a doctor, patients should get right and quick treatment. If you are an advocate, client must get quick and favourable verdict. If you are working as an employee and if you do not perform, you will be out soon.

Few years back, in an organisation, loyalty was more important. Even an average or below average performer was acceptable if he had devoted his physical life for the organisation. But since liberalisation in India, it is either Perform or Perish. Now a days you cannot survive on past glories. To retain your job, every year you have to prove your worth and keep adding value. Few Fortune 500 corporates have a policy to remove bottom 10% least performer every year so that they can hire better talent.

5 Tips to keep performing :
1.Every day is a new day to add value in your work.
2.Use innovative ideas to give some thing different.
3.Set the tough goals periodically.
4.Keep enhancing knowledge about your profession.
5.Success is journey; it’s not a final destination.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
कहे दौर ये आज का, कार्य-कुशल बच पाय।
जो होगी कमजोर कड़ी, खुद हो के हट जाय।।

Progress Requires Speed

Patience in planning and impatience in execution is the secret of success. One may have a great dream, an excellent idea, meticulous preparation, sufficient resources, and competent team but if they lack execution with speed, it will all be useless. Quick action is the key to success.

It may happen that chances of failure increases but that can be compensated with excellent preparation but nothing can fill the gap of execution with speed. For speedy execution, prepare detailed action plan with responsibility and target date after thorough and due deliberation. For complex projects help of statistical tools can be taken otherwise a simple activity chart with start and finish date can be sufficient.

However if day to day follow-ups of each and every activity is not done and plan is not reviewed every day, speed cannot be achieved. Inactiveness and procrastination are speed breakers and hurdles for progress. Be demanding, be aggressive in implementation and execution, and be ruthless in follow-ups, if you really want to achieve some thing worthwhile.

5 Tips for work with speed :
1.Prepare activity chart with responsibility and target dates.
2.Do continuous follow-ups.
3.Eliminate overlapping activities.
4.Set time target for each sub activity.
5.Eliminate bureaucratic processes.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
मंजिल को पाना अगर, समय सहित सम्मान।
रथ में लगे विकास के, पहिये बस गतिमान।।

Possessiveness Suffocates Relationship

Relationship should be maintained like holding a bird in hand. If you hold it tightly, it will suffocate and die. If you hold it loosely, it will fly. If you hold with love and care, it will stay with you. In Indian context, I feel that we tend to be very possessive about our spouse and children, compared to western culture. Possessiveness increases attachment, which in turn increases expectations.

Till today it had not created much of the problems but due to rise in nuclear families, distances due to jobs and increase in working females, there is mismatch between modern life style and traditional values. It is becoming a major cause of strain in relationships.Present circumstances and changing culture demands more space to be given in close relationships.

5 Tips to handle Relationship :
1.Trust is the foundation of a strong relationship.
2.Good understanding is the basic need of relationship.
3.Giving space is important in relationship.
4.People are generally different not difficult.
5.Men and women are genetically different and need to be handled accordingly.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
रिश्तों को मत खींच के, रखना अपने पास।
रिश्तेदारी की वरन्, घुट जायेगी साँस ।।

Protect Your Name

Always remember that the speed with which your reputation is talked about is faster than you can imagine. Wherever you are going, your reputation is already waiting there. In the era of social networking the speed has increased manifold. It is good and advantageous if your reputation is good but it is dangerous if your reputation is bad.

Build your goodwill and reputation; protect your name at all cost. Earlier it was easy to have gap between what you are and how people perceive you, but now people can’t be deceived. One can’t keep wearing fake mask for a long time. So better drop all your bad habits and character flaws. Do not compromise your values for the sake of short-term gains.

In long term, whatever wrong you are doing today will damage you manifold in future. Reputation is like a glass; once the crack is developed it is not easy to gain its original form again. It is not easy to build good reputation and certainly not possible to build it overnight. Promoting false name over night may be easy but building good reputation requires lifetime efforts.

5 Tips for building Reputation :
1.Honesty is the foundation for trust and trust is the foundation for goodwill.
2.Look for long-term benefits than short-term gains.
3.One bad work has power to destroy 99 good works.
4.Keep company of good people and leave company of bad people.
5.Be ready to pay any price to protect the name

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
मुश्किल से पहचान बने, चलिए इसे बचाय।
कभी आपके नाम को, धक्का ना लग पाय।।

Quality Is Quintessential

Whatever you think, whatever you talk, whatever you do, add the flavor of quality to it and you will be able to deliver extra ordinary performance. Quality of thoughts is as essential as quality of things. If your thoughts are not qualitative,your words and actions can’t be. It is imperative that we keep getting thoughts, which pollute our thinking, but continuous cleaning is important as we clean our house, body, clothes etc.

Before uttering your words, check the quality and rephrase your sentences. This trait can change the quality of your life tremendously. Finally, quality of your action will improve your performance, your image and your spirit.

The existence of your business or profession depends on quality of product and services you are offering to your customer and client. Quality depends upon quality of input material, process and quality check for final output.

5 Tips for making Quality as way of Life :
1.Develop the culture of quality consciousness in personal as well as professional life.
2.Quality of output depends on quality of input and process.
3.In short term, quality may cost you but in long term, it is an investment.
4.Continuous monitoring is needed to achieve the quality consistently. 5.Use less quantity but use good quality.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
यदि जगत में आपको,देनी हो जो मात।
सदा सर्वदा सोचिये गुणवत्ता की बात।।

Realize Your Unimportance

You may find this tip very different and unusual. Mostly, we are busy in showing off our importance and not realizing that our role is already over and we are not required anymore to take decisions on their behalf. Without realizing this fact we keep poking our nose in the matters where our importance has already finished or it was never there as we were thinking.

For example, a daughter after marriage interfering in her parent’s home; a mother expecting from her son that he will give as much time as he was giving before marriage; a boss wanting to influence ex-subordinates after he has been transferred to a different department or organization.

5 Tips to realize Unimportance :
1.Be emotionally intelligent.
2.When other persons are not giving you any importance, understand they are independent enough to handle the situation.
3.One needs to be conscious and alert when communicating with others to get signals of irritation & coldness.
4.Continuously analyse your role.
5.Advise only when asked for.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
खुद का मूल्यांकन करें, थोपे नहीं विचार।
साथ समय के ना चले, अपना ही किरदार।।

Smart Is Effective

Smart people get success more easily and quickly compared to intelligent people. Smartness leads to effectiveness. Effectiveness is doing right things in right way at right time. Intelligence can bring efficiency but for effectiveness one needs smartness. Most of the time it has been observed that success is not always gained by the most meritorious people but those who got success were smart enough.

Smartness can be defined as a quality demonstrated by a person of being quick, witty, clever & presentable. It is found many times that a person is more knowledgeable and more intelligent but can’t create an impact due to lack of smartness. Though genes can help in becoming smarter however this skill can be developed by training and continuous efforts.

5 Tips for becoming smart :
1.Be action oriented. One cannot be action oriented if he/she does not think deeply and decide quickly.
2 Be updated. Keep learning particularly about the field you are working in.
3.Be presentable. A smile on the face and a decent dressing sense are needed to be likeable among a group.
4.Be a team player. Whether you are a leader or a member, work with a team spirit.
5.Smart people are not only good orators but also good listeners.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
बुद्धिमान का है यहाँ, बस अपना ही भाव।
चपल आदमी छोड़ता, अपना सदा प्रभाव।।

Silence is Golden

There are 2 kind of people who keep silence : A timid and a wise. A timid doesnot know what to speak & wise thinks why he should speak.Except when you are an excellent orator and your profession demands oratory skills like political leaders, religious leaders, marketing professionals & trainers, excess words will do more harm than any good.

You will always be tempted to trouble your tongue but mostly it will bring trouble in your life. Whenever you are upset for any reason, first step to save yourself from stupidity is to seal your lips. Even a one-minute silence can change future course of action. People who maintain silence are actually talking to self. Such people mostly weigh their words before uttering, so it creates a great impact on the audience.

5 Tips to maintain Silence :
1.Maintaining silence requires higher degree of self-control.
2.Allow others to speak so that you can have a better strategy before you speak because once spoken, retrieving words is impossible.
3.One can be very generous in spending money but should be very miser in spending words.
4.Quality of words are more important than quantity of words. 5.Rephrase sentences several times before you speak.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
बढ़ता है संवाद से, संवादों का शोर।
आत्म नियंत्रण कीजिये, थाम मौन की डोर।।

Suffering is Optional

I learned from my father that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. When he got diagnosed with cancer and doctors predicted only 3 months more of his life, he was confident that he still had 3 more years to live. In that duration he wrote 2 books and got them published. In spite of severe pain and terminal disease he always had smile on his face and lived with full energy and purpose in life.

No one in the world is immune from problems and pains. It is not the problems, which are painful, it is the way we handle them. Strong will power, positive attitude and fighting spirit can reduce the intensity of any difficulty. Few people are like water in the pond, that even a small stone can create endless ripples. On the other hand some people are like ocean, throw any thing in that, it does not make any difference.

5 Tips to face any problem :
1.Do not lose your confidence.
2.Explore the options.
3.Take the help of expert.
4.Smile in the face of a problem.
5.Choose the available options and fight head on like a bull.

Ultimately Truth Wins

Truth is a debit card, pay first and enjoy later. Lie is a credit card, enjoy first and pay later. Truth may be painful initially but lie will have deeper wounds and will hurt you life long. Truth may be bitter initially but it will cure all problems and on the other hand lie will taste sweeter but will be harmful forever.

Lie may win initially but ultimately truth wins. A lie will add to your troubles, subtract your energy, multiply your difficulties and divide your joy whereas a truth will add to your happiness, subtract your troubles, multiply your joy and divide your problems. Sometimes it may look that a small lie can save your relationship but no matter howsoever small a lie is, it will steal your peace peace of mind and happiness.

And when lie gets detected, it hurts much deeper. When the situation is that the truth can hurt, plan your words carefully so that shock is not sudden and wounds are not deep.

5 Tips for telling Truth :
1.Select right time, right words and right situation before telling a truth.
2.If you do not have courage to tell the truth, maintain silence rather than covering up with lies.
3.Do not mix emotions with truth. It will get distorted.
4.It may be harmful in short term but in long term it will be more effective.
5.Truth may be subjective so listen carefully to others also.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
सच को ख़ारिज ना करें , नहीं पालना खोट।
सूरज तो छिपता नहीं ,ले बादल की ओट।।

Create Wonderful World

Every person has his/her own world. The person might not be able to control anyone else but one has full control on his/her body, mind, heart and soul. By wisdom, power, money and fame, one can expand his/her circle of influence and can have indirect control or influence on many people around. To create wonderful world around us, we need to adopt 3 principles.

1. Love All Being:
Every religion/ philosophy teaches us about not harming anybody. Buddhism talks about compassion, Jainism-Ahimsa, Islam-Brotherhood, Christianity-Service and Hinduism-Worship. The quintessence of each religion is to love every living being. Every creature of the earth has equal right to live on planet and human being has more responsibility to love and protect them because he has been bestowed with intellect and wisdom.

2. Do your Duty:
In life, we play many roles such as a child, parent, sibling, spouse, member of a community, society, religious group, boss, colleague, subordinate, citizen of nation and member of the planet. Every role demands certain responsibilities and duties. Our dharma is to discharge those duties as diligently as possible. Sometimes it so happens that in a relationship, other person is not fulfilling his/her duty and due to that we may decide not to fulfill our duty as well. This may satisfy our ego for time being but won’t enrich our mind.

3. Enhance Your Wisdom:
As per Hindu philosophy, ultimate aim of all living beings is to achieve MOKSHA. Only humans are capable of achieving it as the door of moksha can be opened through intellect. To create a wonderful world around us we should keep enhancing our wisdom by reading books and listening to enlightened souls. Wisdom helps to keep our thoughts streamlined, our words in control and to perform actions that are beneficial to all.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
सर्व धर्म सत्ता कहे, करके सबसे प्यार।
बुद्धियुक्त कर्तव्य से, रच अद्भभुत संसार।।

ABC to look in an employee

ften a question arises in the mind as how to recruit and whom to retain. After working for 33 years in various industries worldwide right from junior level management to senior level leadership, I have developed my own formula for employee assessment called ABC.

ABILITY: The first and foremost thing to notice in a candidate is his/her ability to perform the planned role. So,before searching for a candidate it is important to prepare work profile and role profile. Job profile describes a job to be performed by the candidate while role profile describes the exact kind of person required for that job including qualification and relevant experience. In organizations, the level at which you are recruiting and readiness to pay would also form a part of role profile.

Nowadays, reference recruiting happens in most of the organizations. They try to fit a square in a round which puts boththe candidate and the organization in trouble. No candidate is bad or poor; basically it’s the role which is inappropriate that stops him/her to perform at the best. Hence, the role and candidate need to fit together for 100% talent acquisition.

Activity Increases Power

BEHAVIOR: Here ‘Positive-Attitude’ would have been the right word. But, in order to create an acronym ABC, I selected the word ‘Behavior’. Besides ability, positive attitude play vital role in delivering the peak performance. A person will have a positive or negative attitude depending upon his/her inherent qualities, background, education, experiences, training and organizational culture. According to HR professionals, a person can be trained to develop positive attitude but it’s difficult to modify one’s attitude. Human behavior is so unpredictable that they can change their outlook according to the time, people and circumstances.
It is very difficult to judge a person’s behavior in an interview which hardly lasts for 30 minutes at the max. However, there are various scientific methods and tests available to study the mental state of a candidate. It is always better to take the help of experts particularly for important positions. Past reference checks canalso help us in revealing the candidate’s personality traits. At the same time, behavior traits should also be matched with job requirements in order to get 100% from an employee.

Mostly the job profile falls between two extremities. One, where the person is a solo performer and hardly be interacting with others in an organization such as research fellow or games whose lone performance only matters. Second is where team player is absolutely necessary.

Attitude Decides Altitude

CHARACTER: Integrity is the most important quality needed in an employee particularly for long term association. While recruiting we can’t judge whether the candidate is having strong character or not. Except the past reference check, there is no other way to verify integrity of a person. However, few organizations take help of social media sites to check person connections and posts.

Organizations must have a strict policy to eliminate an employee who demonstrates dishonesty. Management face dilemma if an employee is above average or talented but found to be dishonest. My personal opinion is such employees should be terminated without any consideration.

Character Builds Trustworthiness

In spite of having ABC in an employee, you may not get desired result, in such cases there are bright chances that external factors beyond the capacity of the employee are playing critical role.

IQ vs EQ

Q- Intelligence Quotient. EQ- Emotional Quotient.
Often there is a question whether IQ is superior or EQ is superior. In my opinion both are necessary however I have tried to penned down differences in IQ and EQ.

IQ is having right knowledge EQ is using the knowledge rightly.
IQ is taking right decision. EQ is implementing the decision at right time with right people in right circumstances.
IQ is understanding what is said. EQ is understanding which is not yet uttered.
IQ can make you good manager. EQ will make you a good leader.
IQ can guide you to right decision EQ will help you in understanding consequences of that decision.
IQ can show you the right destination. EQ will guide you which path will be the best to reach that destination.
IQ is a straight line EQ is with rhythm
IQ can give you success. EQ will give you holistic success.
IQ is a function of brain. EQ is function of mind.
IQ is needed to create relation. EQ is needed to maintain relation.
IQ may create friends. EQ will eliminate enemies.
You can impress with IQ. You will embrace with EQ.
IQ can help you in achieving perfection. EQ will help you is achieving affection.
IQ is more needed at work. EQ is more needed at home.
IQ can make you angry. EQ will manage your anger.
Zero percent IQ and 100% EQ needed to love or to be loved.
IQ is masculine quality, EQ is feminine quality.
IQ is dry with facts. EQ is wet with emotions.
IQ is learning. EQ is listening.
IQ will give you more knowledge. EQ will give you more understanding.
IQ seek success. EQ seeks happiness.
IQ will help in understanding differentiation between us. EQ will help in understanding similarities between us.
IQ will help to know outer world. EQ will help to explore inner world.
IQ will help in gaining knowledge. EQ will help in spreading knowledge.
IQ is a logical side of brain. EQ is creative side of brain.
IQ is tip of iceberg. EQ is entire iceberg.
Both have no connection. You may have either. You may have both. You may have neither. But certainly EQ is superior than IQ.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
बुद्धिमान के पर उसे, देते बड़ी उड़ान।
समझदार के हाथ पर, जग की रहे कमान।।

Make Yourself Free

As soon as we complete our education, our freedom is lost. For next 30 years main aim is to earn money, create wealth and secure old age. Marriage, children’s education, building home, buying car, enjoying vacation etc. becomes the main objectives. Most of us get completely busy in making money so that we can fulfil all our material desires. There is nothing wrong in that but at the same time we become slave of money making machine.

Money can be earned by 3 ways. First is to use our own energy and skills. Second is engaging people who makes money for us and third is passive income where wealth makes money for us. Unless you become celebrity at very young age, it is not possible to earn huge money through first method. You would be surprise to calculate your present worth. For example you are earning ₹ 50,000 per month. Your worth is meagre around 50 lacs and if you have ability to earn ROI (return on investment) of 25% than it is hardly 25 Lacs. The house you own is worth more than you.

To make yourself free in long term it is important that in initial years try to make multiple source of income so that after 10-15 years you can have passive income where your money makes you enough money to live your balance life comfortably so that you can do whatever you wish to do and where there is no compulsion of becoming slave.

Hey, do not misunderstand here that making yourself free mean stop earning money. One shall never stop earning money. But when your passive income is more than your active income and active income is mainly from the profession which is your passion then you are FREE.

Main sources of passive income are rent, interest, dividend, appreciation of assets etc. where your personal efforts are negligible.

5 Tips How to become free.

1. Develop multiple source of income during initial years of your career and one of the source shall be from your passion such as photography, painting, writing, teaching etc.
2. Invest your savings in assets which can start giving you passive income.
3. Make all efforts to grow income from source which you are passionate about and reduce your efforts from sources which you do not enjoy.
4. Take the professional help if needed to manage your assets and passive income.
5. Find entrepreneurs who are passionate about their ideas and become investing partner in their ventures.

A2Z areas of new year resolutions

Most of us have a habit of making New Year resolutions. But often we end up withdrawing before end of January. Still it is a good thing to do because if we write resolutions they get imprinted in our subconscious mind and our actions get directed towards them, knowingly or unknowingly. However most of us do not get enough ideas to resolve. I have compiled A to Z areas in which we can frame our resolutions.

Addiction – Giving up smoking, drinking, non-vegetarian food,etc. are the most popular resolutions. Find out a habit which is harming your mind, body, heart and soul and resolve to quit.

Business – If you are in business, you can resolve for top line and bottom line growth, quality improvement, customers satisfaction, liability reduction, business expansion, employeewelfare, CSR activities etc.

Character – One can resolve to eliminate flaws in a character such as dishonesty, jealousy, ego, etc.

Discipline – If you have habit of reaching office late or skipping morning walk then resolve to be more disciplined in future.

Education – If you wish to get another degree or want to pursue higher education, resolve to do that.

Family and Friends – If your relationships with dear and near ones need improvement then resolve to make more efforts in that direction.

Games – If you like some game or sport but skipping them due to other priorities then resolve to achieve balance.

Health – Health is being neglected due to highly demanding lifestyle. Resolve to give 1 hour everyday so that another 23 hours become more productive.
Income – Plan to increase your monthly income or start another source of income to meet rising family needs.

Job – You may set job related goals so that your performance increases and you get promotion and salary raise.

Knowledge – In the year 1992 I resolved that I will read one book every month which helped me in enhancing my knowledge and hence I feel myself capable of writing blogs.

Love – If your love life is going for a toss, resolve to give quality time to your companion.

Money Management – You may have sufficient income and enough wealth but if it is not properly managed then you are losing major source of passive income. One must resolve to invest part of savings in precious metals, real estate, stocks of good companies etc. for developing passive income.

Neighborhood – As a personal social responsibility it is our duty to do good for our neighbors. Resolve to participate in community activities.

Over Dues– If your out-standings have increased then you may resolve to reduce loans in this year.

Passion – You may have some passions to pursue and you were unable to give enough time for that then resolve to pursue your passion that will give you lot of happiness and peace.

Quality of life – Quality of life is getting neglected due to work pressure and scarcity of time and money. You may resolve to achieve this area.

Religion & Spirituality – Religion and spirituality are important aspects of life. To achieve Moksha is final purpose of all human being. Efforts need to be performed to achieve this.

Society – As a human being we are part of some or othersocieties, clubs, groups etc. We may resolve to give our time, money and energy for betterment of our society.

Travel – Most of the people have desire to explore various places in the world. That increases our horizon, vision and outlook. You may resolve to see one or two new places everyyear.

Universe – Being a part of universe we have responsibility to leave the planet better than we found it. Tree plantation, nature conservation, banning plastics etc. can be the resolution as a tribute to our Mother Earth.

Values – Moral values in upcoming generations are weakening. One can resolve to identify those and make efforts to strengthen them

Weekly Review– Fix 15 minutes in a week preferably Sunday or Monday morning to review the progress on resolutions and reframe if needed.

Xtra curricular activities – One may resolve to participate in activities other than work and family such as art, cultural, sports, community service etc.

Yes I Can – All above resolutions require the attitude of “I CAN” and “I WILL” otherwise by February the entire efforts will be of no use.

Zeal – At the last zeal and enthusiasm throughout the year need to be maintained if one wishes to get full benefit of New Year resolutions.

When you are poles apart!!

Entire earth’s existence is dependent on the North and the South Pole. The earth is embraced by these two poles. Just as both the banks keep river flowing, both the tracks keep train moving,similarly both parents keep family growing. It so happens that most of the couples are way apart in physical outlook, mental state of mind, intellectual level or spiritual level. However if they understand their differences then life is wonderful and if they do not then their life is miserable.

It is very rare that both the husband and wife have same opinion on various day to day issues of life. But respecting each other’s opinion can reduce the friction and can make life lovable and livable.

5 Tips for opposite couple:

1. Never put your proposal for any subject without proper thought and strategy.
2. Never react instantaneously if you have opposite views on any proposal put up by your partner.
3. Try to keep issue at discussion level instead of drifting towards argument stage.
4. If the issue has no long term significance, drop it if consensus is not possible.
5. Keep happiness and peace the main goal.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
पति -पत्नी दोनों रहे ,सदा सदा दो छोर।
इक-दूजे को जान कर, चलते सुख की ओर।।

Don’t Leave Hope

Probably there is no one who doesn’t reach to a situation of hopelessness at one point of time in their life. We are dependent on so many external factors that sometimes we reach a point where we are totally helpless. At that point we have 3 choices. First is to keep at least 1% hope to overcome the situation and go on doing the best possible. Second is to surrender yourself to the things, situation or people and let destiny take its own course. And the third is to give up and run away from the situation.

Someone has said that, “If you think you will succeed you are right and if you think you will lose you are right”. So, the success is completely a matter of positive thinking. Positive thinking is nothing but another expression for hope. When my father got detected for cancer at last stage and doctors anticipated just 3 months of life, he lived for next 3 years only because of positive thinking, positive attitude and never lasting hope. In my opinion hope is the single factor which differentiates successful people from failures.

5 Tips to keep hope always alive:
1. As soon as you wake up in morning, count your blessings.
2. Think of innovative ways to overcome the situation.
3. Performing continuous action is a key to keep hope alive.
4. Sometimes giving a break can offer new solutions.
5. Sometimes external factors and destiny are not in our control, then accept the situation and live with it.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
आशा का दामन सदा, कस के रखियो थाम।
सकारात्मक सोच के, सुखद होत परिणाम।।

Are You Laying Eggs, Continuously

Are You Laying Eggs, Continuously?

Are you laying eggs continuously or adding value to whatever you are doing? If not, then you are useless to the organization you are working for or a family you are living with. At the end of every day before going to sleep, question yourself what value you have added to your personal and professional life. In personal life we can add value every day by enhancing our wisdom, strengthening our relationships and purifying our soul. In professional life we can add value by improving our performance on daily basis; thus moving closer to our goals and achieving them.

Most of us have a habit of broadcasting our old achievements. Often we come across an elderly person who very proudly speaks about his achievements at the age of 25 and so the comparative fairy-tale. More often than not we find that he has been proudly boasting of that particular achievement practically every day to every person he has met in last 25 years. His entire self-worth is built on that particular one achievement. In my opinion if you are narrating an achievement which is older than one year just to seek attention or to feel worthy, no matter how big it may be, you have stopped laying eggs and your life has lost its meaning. You need to look at your life critically, redefine it and recreate value for yourself, your loved ones and your organization.

5 Tips for adding Value continuously:
1. Set your goals and review them periodically. Maintain a Daily-To-Do-List, review and update it regularly.
2. Use your creativeness and innovativeness in whatever task you are doing.
3. If your present job/ field/ role is not giving you any value addition and you feel that you have stopped growing then change it.
4. In present era, where both members of family are working, it is important for both of them to share the responsibilities at home and create happiness.
5. Check with your superiors and surroundings, what more you can do to add value to your present role.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
स्पर्धा के इस दौर में, सतत नया निर्माण।
स्थापित रहने के लिए, देना हमे प्रमाण।।

Comfort zone can give you bread. For butter, step out!

Intensity of desire & the power to achieve is the thing that differentiates humans from animals. Animals are satisfied with the food they get once in a day but humans have higher desire/wants and makes effort to accumulate at least for 7 generations. Philosophically it may not be right but humans havea natural desire to grow and there is nothing wrong in making continuous efforts for achieving the growth.

Study shows that children who are raised in a comfort zone perform poorly in studies as compared to children whose future is not secured by their parents. Comfort zone can give normal growth but to reach next level one need to step out and take risk. Why it happens that employees in private sector are more productive even though they are paid less as compared to public sector and government employees. The reason is simple. Job of government sector employees is secured and private sector employee can keep his job as long as he is performing.

After completing education, you will find that students who choose job, deep inside they are searching for comfort zone and students who are ready to take risks and face the world, would try out entrepreneurship. If you are presently living in a comfort zone due to any reason but want to go next level and grow exponentially, step out and take risks.

5 Steps for getting out of the comfort zone:-

1. First identify, whether you are in comfort zone and do you have any need to leave it. If your growth since last 5 years is not more than 5-10% then you are living in the comfort zone.
2. Do your SWOC analysis – Strength, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Challenges.
3. Consciously search opportunities in your areas of strength.
4. Make proper business plan and do risk analysis.
5. Choose most appropriate opportunity as per your SWOC analysis and take action to make it successful.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
सुविधाभोगी आदमी, थोड़े में संतोष
रोटी पर मक्खन मिले, हो इच्छा और जोश।।

100% Consensus !! A myth

If you are thinking that 100% of people surrounding you will like your thoughts, words and actions than you are under the highest level of misconception. When, what is said by Jesus, Mohammad, Rama, Krishna, Buddha, Mahavira or any other great religious leaders is also not acceptable to all, how do you expect that your thoughts would be. Few persons agreeing or disagreeing to you does not make you right or wrong to the rest of the world.

Arthur Freeman in his book “10 Dumbest mistake smart people make” said that Don’t believe your press agents and don’t trust your critics. Use your own judgement. People may have vested interests in supporting or opposing you. People may not be as intelligent and wise as you are or just be ignorant about your field. You do whatever you think it is right. Take the advise of trusted ones only. It is not necessary that even all your trusted ones will agree with your thoughts, idea and action but even if a few like it, you can think about implementing it. The only one who should be convinced 100% is you

All revolutionary changes were done by people, who had the entire world against them. It does not mean we do not take advise or stop listening all. It just means that trust your own guts and act with determination and dedication. Everyone can not like your poem, painting or song. It does not mean you stop writing, painting or singing.

5 Tips about your initiatives:
1. Take the action if you are convinced. Let the entire world stand against you.
2. If you are not sure, take opinion only from those who are experienced and can be trusted.
3. Act on your idea, thought with full determination and dedication.
4. In case you realise mistake at later stage do not hesitate in seeking apology from all concern.
5. Take the expert help if needed.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
देखो और सुनो जग की, खुद की गढ़ लो राह।
शत प्रतिशत सब हो सही, मत करना परवाह।।

Be Sensibly Sensitive

When you are very fragile about your emotions, you are sensitive. But when you are very careful about the emotions of others, you are sensible. According to Richard Nordquist, Grammar & Composition Expert, the most common meaningsof the adjective Sensible are- practical, reasonable, having (or showing) good sense or sound judgment. The most common meanings of the adjective Sensitive are- easily hurt or offend,highly perceptive, quick to respond to slight changes. Many people call themselves sensitive but when you deeply analyze them, you will find that they are sensitive about their own feelings. They keep hurting others without realizing it.

Daniel Goleman in the book Emotional Intelligence (EQ) explained that your EQ is higher when you are competent enough to understand impact of your words and actions on the feeling of others. For most of us it is easy to understand when someone hurts but difficult to empathize feeling of others caused by our own words and actions.

When you feel hurt, think from others point of view. His/her background, education, experience, basic nature and your relationship with them. Your pain will reduce after understanding the real reasons. Being sensibly sensitive requires balanced use of mind and intellect.

5 Tips How to be sensibly sensitive:
1. Be conscious of the consequences of your actions.
2. Analyze the actions of others before reacting.
3. Be quick to seek apology if unintentionally you have hurt someone.
4. Learn to let go.
5. Give benefit of lack of wisdom to others.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
कभी किसी के भी कहीं, टूटे ना जज़्बात।
समझदार भावुक रहो, समझो सब की बात।।

Be My Valentine

For my age people (1956 Model) it’s a new word that came into understanding only in the last decade. It is being said that put a finger in front of nose of any man and if no air is passing through it then you can conclude that he has stopped thinking about romance. The problem with men is that his body is subject to decay but his mind remains young till last breath.

Anyway purpose of this blog is not to explain about modern day romance but to give deep meaning to the word valentine. I wish to celebrate this day by falling in romance with whatever I do and extending my love to all beings.
Nothing worthwhile can be achieved unless and until you become passionate about your work and purpose. Before sleep if your mind is not with your goal and after wakeup if the first thing is not your purpose in your thoughts then certainly you are not passionate about your goals. On this valentine day, resolve to fall in love with your purpose, goal, target etc. The purpose of our existence is to become best in whatever we are doing. If you are a cook, try to become most passionate cook or if you are a cleaner, try to become the best cleaner around.

Being a Jain, I have been taught from my childhood not to kill even a mosquito or any living being, not even the plants. In other words the lesson is to love all living being. Everyone has equal right to live on this planet. The principle is simple. If you love someone, you cannot think of harming them. In Jainism, we have tradition that one day in a year we seek apology for all our thoughts, words and actions if that had hurt anyone knowingly or unknowingly.

So on this valentine day, I invite you all to “Be My Valentine”and I shall love all living beings.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
जो भी साथ जीवंत है, करिये उनसे प्यार।
वेलेंटाइन संत के, यही सत्य उद्गार।।

Nothing is Ugly

Human is the only creature on earth that uses his mind and intellect to judge & experience the things, plants, animals and other human beings. If you believe in the God and trust everything that is created by him then judging anyone/anything ugly is blaming the God. He has created everything unique but our ignorance makes decision on the basis of an outer beauty. If we like, we appreciate. If we do not like, we hate.

It is our senses that decide our likes and dislikes. Our senses are slave of our genes, upbringing, education and experiences. So the ugliness is not in the things or beings but ugliness lies within. When someone asked Dalai Lama, What is love? he said “Love is absence of judgment”. Judgment leads to liking and disliking, love and hate. Stop judging and start accepting the things and beings as they are and not as you like them to be.

5 Tips how to stop judging:

1. Be conscious about your senses, mind and intellect. As soon as you start judging, control it.
2. Try to look beyond looks. You will see usefulness in everything.
3. Everything is unique. Nothing is bad and ugly.
4. Being a human being sometimes it will not be possible to control your mind and intellect but at least control your words and actions to express your bad opinions.
5. Keep enhancing your knowledge and wisdom by reading and listening to wise people.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
दुनिया में सब कुछ सही, कुछ भी नही कुरूप।
भेद नहीं हम कर सके, सब में उसका रूप।।