3 Reasons to Fight
During January 2015, my nephew and niece, real bother and sister, visited our home to spend 2 days with us. I asked them do you fight and their instant answer was, a lot. I asked them why you fight and they did not had any specific reason for that. I don’t know about other countries but in India most of the siblings fight, for silly reasons and very frequently but at the same time they have very strong binding and deep attachment.
I tried to analyse why people fight and could categorised in 3 broad reasons.
1) We do not like some ones face or appearance. In other words our chemistry do not match or we radiate negative energy whenever we see each other. In this case there is no logical reason but psychologically we do not get along and most of the times interaction ended in big fight.
2) The second reason for fight is when words of someone not matching our expectations. As long as thoughts are thoughts, people may be at peace but once the thoughts get converted into words and those words are not matching to the views of others than discussion starts which may lead to argument and get ended up in fight.
3) Third reason is when someone’s actions are not acceptable to us. When those actions affect negatively to our self interest. First we try to prevent and oppose with our influence and when unsuccessful, fear crops up that other may win his intentions and we end up in big fight.
In most of the cases of close relation like husband- wife, parent- children, brother- sisters, close friends etc ties of relationship is so strong that fight does not end up in permanent breakup but when relationship is weak, it may result in to permanent separation.