SIT (Shall I Talk?)
Most of us are not very conscious about what we speak or what we do not speak. People fall between highly introvert to overly extrovert category. Reason may be genetic, upbringing etc. over a period slowly it becomes our habit and it becomes our nature. Generally it is observed that comparatively men talk less than women.
Psychotherapists says that communication happens at 3 levels. Cognitive is more related to exchange of information. Affective is exchange of emotions and conative is exchange of intentions. To be wise, one shall have more communication at cognitive and conative level at work and more communication at affective level at home.
My personal view is one must talk minimum required at work and maximum possible at home. At office talking more may lead to less productivity and unnecessary confusions where as talking less at home may lead to dryness in relationship.
5 Tips about Talking.
1. Be alert and conscious while talking. As far as possible, think before talking.
2. At work prepare well before talking. Quality of words matter more at work.
3. At work use less emotions in talk and use more intellect.
4. At home use more emotions in talk and less intellect.
5. Take full interest in talks at home though most of the matters may look very trivial and unimportant. One may be taking million dollars decision at work but at home participating in maid problem is equally important.