AYI (Are You Impartial?)
“Objects in mirror are closer than they appear.” You will find this phrase engraved on the side mirrors of vehicles. These convex mirrors provide better view of the field. It also makes objects appear smaller. There are mainly 3 types of lenses- Plain, Convex and Concave. When we use convex curved lens, the things will look farther and smaller and if we use concave lens, things will look closer and bigger.
Same happens with life! We see faults of others with concave lens and magnify them but their qualities with convex lens and ignore them. Whereas we see our faults with convex lens and our goodness with concave lens. We appreciate the people we like and we criticize the people we dislike. Using these lenses is the major cause of prejudices in relationship. Appreciating more than one deserve is equally bad as criticizing more than needed. Jainism and Buddhism gave principle of SAMYAK DRISHTI which means RIGHT VISION i.e. looking at the things as they are!
5 tips to be impartial:
- As a human being it is quite natural that we get influenced negatively or positively but important is to readjust our thoughts to neutrality.
- People may have their own perception about your partiality. However you need to continuously introspect your attitude.
- Encourage feedback from your closed people to have judicious view of your actions.
- The world is full of illusion. People are experts in wearing masks. Keep a penetrating view to look at reality.
- In spite of all precautions, if you have behaved partiality, take corrective action to save the face.