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Avoid 4 C,s                                                                                    

  • Criticism
  • Comparison
  • Competition
  • Complaining

 

Adopt 4 C’s

  • Caring
  • Commitment
  • Clarity
  • Character

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Opening Story:

The Man, The Boy, and The Donkey

 

A man and his son were once going with their donkey to market. As they were walking along by his side a countryman passed them and said, “You fools, what is a donkey for but to ride upon?” So, the man put the boy on the donkey, and they went on their way.

But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said, “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”

So, the man ordered his boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other, “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”

Well, the man didn’t know what to do, but at last he took his boy up before him on the donkey. By this time, they had come to the town, and the passersby began to jeer and point at them. The man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at.

The men said, “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey of yours — you and your hulking son?”

The man and boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, until at last they cut down a pole, tied the donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them until they came to a bridge, when the donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle the donkey fell over the bridge, and his forefeet being tied together, he was drowned.

The moral of the story is: Try to please everyone, and you will please no one.

Good relationships with those who truly matter to you are priceless. But they don’t stay good without effort. Here are some ways to keep them thriving.

Personally, and professionally, relationships are at the center of who we are. Whether they are with a parent, spouse, or child, or your boss, team, co-worker, or business partner, your most important relationships are worth the time and care you put into them.

There are benefits of making your most important relationships a priority every single day.

Great relationships not only make working easier; they also improve productivity. Deeply connected relationships cultivate trust and mutual respect.

Relationships take effort and hard work, but like anything important in our life, they’re well worth preserving.

Here are a few Cs to keep your relationships humming, at work and at home.

  1. CARE – Make a dedicated time for those who matter.

Devote a portion of your day toward relationship building, even if it’s just 20 minutes, perhaps broken up into five-minute segments. Let those who are close to you know that you see them as a priority.

  1. Character – Be the most positive person you know.

Positive people are grateful people; they know the measure of how to appreciate others. They focus on what matters to them and they make what matters them important.

  1. Clarity – Never jump to conclusions.

Don’t respond to any situation until you have the whole picture. Nothing can cause more harm to a relationship than jumping to false conclusions, so let go of your biases and judgments. Learn to stay open-minded and work on getting informed.

  1. Commitment- Under-promise and overdeliver.

The best way to show people they’re important to you is to follow through on your commitments. Give more than is expected.

  1. Do not Criticize – Attack the problem, not the person.

When problems arise–and they will–take the time to understand the problem and the person. Instead of spreading blame, take the opportunity to learn something and practice solving problems collaboratively.

  1. Avoid Complaining – Communicate candidly and honestly.

A good relationship starts with good communication. Don’t let silence get between what you have to say to each other. Good communication has to be developed, and the process takes effort. Don’t stop talking when something needs to be said and don’t speak when someone else needs to be heard.

7.Do Not Compare – Be passionately appreciative.

Everyone wants to be appreciated. Don’t wait for perfection to strike; just appreciate and enjoy your colleagues, family, and friends for who they are.

  1. Do Not Compete – Rather Connect.

Learning to Celebrate Instead of Compete. Have admiration instead of jealousy. If you see qualities or successes you like in another person, try striving to admire the person rather than be jealous of them. In other words, use their success as a way to set a goal for yourself, rather than letting it turn into envy.

Too many relationships are built on each party wanting to get something out of the deal. But the only way a relationship will last is if you treat it as a place where you go to give, not to take.

Working on your important relationships is a way of life that’s worth pursuing–because the quality of those relationships is the quality of your life.

Whether it’s your significant other or your best friend, relationships take work. Though what makes a healthy relationship is different for everyone, cultivating any sort of connection with another person takes time and effort.

Below are five habits that you can use to develop a stronger relationship:

  1. Communicate

Perhaps the most important trait in any healthy relationship is honest and open communication. Those involved in strong relationships know this and understand the value of sincere discussion. It is important to not only acknowledge and communicate the good things, but also the bad. To develop and maintain a healthy, long-lasting relationship, you must be truthful in your communication.

  1. Respect Each Other

In any inter-personal communication, being respectful is essential to a positive and constructive discussion. For relationships, this means not only respecting the ideas, opinions, and suggestions of others, but also respecting their time, their values, and their trust. Make sure to honor commitments you have to each other, be aware and supportive of one another’s values, and respect the trust he/she has in you.

  1. Express Your Emotions

Expressing feelings can leave anyone feeling vulnerable, but it is essential to any long-lasting relationship. Whether it’s saying “I love you” to your partner, expressing your heartfelt thanks to a friend for being a shoulder to cry on, or simply showing your love and appreciation for another person through actions, expression is key. It’s important to consider that different people express emotions in different ways. You may constantly verbally communicate in a relationship, but this does not devalue your partner’s doing all the dishes every day, or your friend stopping by your work with a coffee for you. The importance here is not how you show and share your feelings, but simply that you do.

  1. Spend Time Together

Though this may seem obvious, one of the easiest ways for a relationship to fail is by not putting in any time. If your best friend doesn’t live close by, meet up for dinner or drinks once every few weeks, or set up regular Skype dates. If your partner is always working late, try to grab lunch, or plan a weekend getaway together. Being present and putting in effort to be together is essential in a healthy relationship.

 

  1. Appreciate Each Other

Remember to appreciate those who are important to you and active in your life. Similar to expressing your emotions, express your gratitude to this other person for simply being in your life and making it better. Often, we think about how happy we are that we have such fulfilling relationships in our lives, but forget to express this feeling to those who matter. Remember to appreciate what you have in a relationship, and it will bloom and grow.

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