Avoid Negative Assumptions
There is a saying that to ASSUME means to make an ASS out of U and ME. God has given us mind and intellect to use it wisely, logically and creatively but we waste the same in assuming insensible things. When our ego is slightly hurt we start building all negative feelings about that person by assuming things for which the other person has no clue. Those negative feelings keep on piling up and suddenly blast at a wrong time, in a wrong place and in wrong context.
The solution is, if you get hurt by your friend, relative, family or colleague, straightway go to him and express what you are feeling. In 99% cases, chances are that all misunderstandings will vanish while discussing and you will have a better bonding for future. If you keep on assuming, your relationship will be eaten away, like termite eating wood silently.
5 Tips to avoid negative assumptions.
1. Stay alert about what you are thinking.
2. Clarify assumptions at earliest.
3. Tolerate small things.
4. Try to understand from other person’s point of view.
5. Whenever possible clarify in writing.
दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े
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