AYF (Are You Fearless?)
In India, CA (Chartered Accountant) is the only professional exam where students cannot predict their result and score with certainty. I recall my exam days during late 1970’s, when our exam used to start at 10 am and I used to stop studying at 9am and listen local radio Vividh Bharati. My most of the friends studied till last minute. When they asked how come I used to be so relaxed, my reply would be “Institute of CA at the most will fail me.” If today I analyze my thought process, the reason for that calmness was that I used to think what worse can happen and accept the worst without much of the pain.
Top 10 most strong fears in order of their intensity are as follows:
- Fear of Failure 2.Fear of Death
- Fear of Rejection 4.Fear of Criticism
- Fear of Loneliness 6.Fear of Misery
- Fear of Disappointment 8.Fear of Illness
- Fear of Unknown 10.Fear of Losing Freedom
Since fear is always about the future outcome, most of the time it is imaginary and psychological rather than logical. Fear leads to worry. Few fears may be genetic but most of the fears we learn during our nurturing, from parents, teachers, fellow students and surroundings. For example, Indian mothers may not allow their children to go nearwater and learn swimming whereas western mothers teach & put their 1 year old child in sea water for swimming.
5 tips to become fearless:
- Actions are in our control. Result gets affected by lot of unforeseen forces so focus on action but do not worry about results.
- Imagine what worst can happen and plan for that situation accordingly.
- The best way to overcome fear is to “FACE IT” with confidence in mind and smile on the face. Fear will evaporate.
- Align your thoughts, words and actions. That will make your character strong. People who never do any wrong to others are most fearless.
- Ultimate fearless situation is when neither pleasure nor pain affects you.Such type of state is achieved by people like Lord Mahavira and Lord Buddha.